Don’t wait for trends to show your love

If you have been on Instagram in the past few years, you’ll know that every Monday and Wednesday, most couples and those in the friend zone have a post with their significant other including the hashtag #mcm or #wcw.

Depending on the day, these posts typically include a statement of how much they love each other, how they’re grateful their significant other puts up with them and how great they are as a person.

While there is nothing technically wrong with these posts, I can’t help but wonder if the significant other hears this more than once a week. Every Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day or Father’s Day, we hear the same thing: “I don’t know why we have a special day just for loving someone I should love every day.”

Although I don’t agree with this saying for holidays, I do agree with it when Mondays and Wednesdays  happen weekly.

Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and Valentine’s Day are specifically for showing the other person you care about them.

These holidays allow you an extra chance and a good reason to take them out to dinner, buy them a movie or clean the house without being asked.

We need to show our love every day.  You don’t have to do something big every day, but a sincere “I love you” can work wonders. If you’re not married, you can send them a “good morning” text or a note to let them know how much you love them.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t post anything on social media about our significant others. It is OK to post about date night, accomplishments and announcements. Go for it! But it’s concerning when you post once a week only about how much you love them.

My boyfriend has never posted a “Woman Crush Wednesday” photo about me — or any kind of post for that matter — and I am perfectly OK with that. I haven’t posted a “Man Crush Monday” about him, either. He isn’t into viewing and posting on social media all that much, and I respect him for that.

I actually prefer that he doesn’t post something mushy about me online because I like to hear it in person instead. I know that he loves me through the little things he does.

If we’re not letting our significant other know we love them except for once a week or during testimony meeting, it makes it hard for them to actually know we love them.

When I was in high school, there was a member of my family who would only tell me they loved me during testimony meeting. Going from day to day, I never really knew how they were showing their love, but they would tell me from the pulpit how much they loved me. It was an uncomfortable position to find myself in, and I don’t know that I ever really felt loved.

So, next Monday or Wednesday when you are about to make your weekly post, take a minute to think about your actions in the past week. Is this the first time all week that you’re letting your significant other know you love and appreciate them?

If so, consider holding off on the post for a week or two until you do.

Let the people we love actually know that we love them rather than have  them guess.

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