Everyone wants to have conversations that are easy and fun to engage in. Sometimes conversations feel awkward and forced. The next time you hold a conversation, try using one of these five tips to help your conversation flow more easily.

  1. Ask questions

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    If you ask a question and receive only a partial answer, respond with polite silence. Simply wait. A more complete answer will usually follow. People will feel as though their first answer was unsatisfactory and try to help get rid of the feeling of disappointment.

  2.  Groups

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    COLIN GREY | FLICKR CREATIVE COMMONS


    When a group of people laughs, people instinctively look toward the group members they feel closest to or want to feel closest to. This is a great way to see if that one person you are interested in is interested in you back.

  3. Pay attention to people’s feet

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    GINNY | FLICKR CREATIVE COMMONS

    If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation, and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation. Similarly, if you are in a conversation with a coworker who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing another direction, they want the conversation to end.

  4. Posture

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    UMBERTO SALVAGNIN | FLICKR CREATIVE COMMONS


    When talking to someone, adopt their posture, they will subconsciously receive you as a friendlier person. Humans love mimicry, so adopting someone else’s posture helps with their perceived image of you.

  5. Eye contact

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    SJOERD LAMMERS | FLICKR CREATIVE COMMONS


    When first meeting someone, try to notice their eye color while also smiling at them. It might be because you look for a second or two longer, but people respond to it. Eye contact is key in establishing your image, so holding their eye contact longer is good.