The 2015 Billboard Music Awards were held May 17.
A few days later, my Twitter and Facebook feeds were filled with pictures of Lindsey Stirling, an LDS violinist, looking absolutely beautiful while standing on the red carpet.
Unfortunately, her beauty was not the reason she was all over social media.
Several members of the Church took it upon themselves to say that her black, cut-out-style dress, which had been lined with tan fabric, did not comply with the Church’s modesty standards.
Comments such as, “I’m sorry, but I can’t show this picture to my girls,” and, “How did she wear her temple garments with that dress?” appeared on an LDS Living article about Stirling’s response to the criticism.
The problem I have with this situation is that the criticism of Lindsey’s dress largely comes from fellow members of the Church.
That night, Stirling won the award for Top Dance/Electronic Album. She was nominated along with other big names in the dubstep and electronic music genres. Instead of focusing on Stirling’s accomplishment, many members focused on her appearance.
Stirling went to her Instagram account to apologize to those she inadvertently offended with her choice of dress.
“I’ve received a lot of hate over the last two days, and I’m sorry for anyone that I’ve disappointed,” according to Stirling. “The dress I wore to the awards was fully lined with tan fabric. But after looking at the pictures, I see that you actually can’t tell that it’s lined. In hindsight, it wasn’t the best choice because modesty is important to me. However, more importantly, it makes me so sad that people are so quick to judge, especially all the ‘Christians.’ I make mistakes, and I am definitely not perfect, but I really am trying my best. I tried on racks of dresses before I found one that actually covered me, and I want to thank the designer for making a dress that could make me feel beautiful and still keep me completely covered from head to toe.”
We’re taught that we shouldn’t judge others, but there are some members of the Church who can be extremely judgmental.
Yes, we do need to have the ability to judge between what is right and what is wrong.
How else would we be able to live righteously and return to our Heavenly Father?
But we need to approach those judgments with caution, and we definitely need to do it in a better way than spreading hateful comments about others on the Internet.
To Lindsey, I thought you looked beautiful. Just remember that there will always be at least one person you can’t make happy, no matter what you do.
And to the haters, I quote John 8:7, “… He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.”