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Chivalry needs to be more prominent

DALLAN BOYD | Photo Illustration

DALLAN BOYD | Photo Illustration

Is chivalry dead? No, but it is sadly not as prominent in society as it once was.

Why is it then that chivalry has become less noticeable among men and women?

Some women have a hard time accepting help these days because they do not want to be thought of as charity cases.

Many men, in return, have lost some chivalrous qualities.

“Women and men, they’re trying to be so equal,” said Marina de Andrade, a sophomore studying communication. “I feel like women are not encouraging them anymore to actually open the door or do those little things because we think we’re so equal to them, but then we start telling them that they’re jerks because they’re not doing that.”

She said that the lack of chivalry has to do with a lack of mutual respect that needs to be given from both genders.

“We encourage and then we don’t encourage and then they get discouraged,” de Andrade said. “We don’t realize that those differences need to exist.”

Kurt Munns, a freshman studying health science, said he believes the world has deviated from giving women the respect they deserve.

“From the guys’ perspective, a lot of women these days, especially young teenage girls, they have a negative point of view of themselves,” Munns said.

He said that because of this warped perception of how women view themselves, it has caused a wall between men and women when it comes to accepting and giving chivalry.

“What men need to start doing is getting to know real women, not just outer appearances,” Munns said. “If they’re able to do that, get to know women rather than as objects, then I think it could probably break the barrier between women not wanting chivalry and men being able to give chivalry.”

Lindsay Robertson, a senior studying biology, said that because the feminist movement that has changed society’s perspective, women have sought to be more independent from men today.

“I felt very nervous about even approaching a man, much less accepting any form of respect or charitable act from one,” Robertson said. “It made feel like I was a charity case, like he was taking pity on me, and for a girl with very low self-esteem who had been given all this feminist stuff, I hated it.”

Robertson said women have been given the idea that women don’t need men, and that they can accomplish life on their own.

She said we all need to learn to be more considerate when it comes to our views towards one another.

She said that through this skewed perception, society has lost its ability to be chivalrous because relationships have become more of a competition between the man and woman.

“Being together, it’s not a competition,” Robertson said. “Dating shouldn’t be competitive, it should be complementary. We need to show women that there are benefits to being a wife and a mother that you don’t get in a work place, and it’s alright to rely on a man and to just trust him.”

Ivanro Lagazo, a sophomore studying mechanical engineering, said chivalry is different today then from what it used to be in the past.

“Men have changed, women have changed, and both want something different,” he said.

He said that in order to change this, men need to learn the qualities of chivalry now, like how to be courageous, smart and respectful toward women.

He said that way, future generations can be taught these same attributes.

“Learn how to treat women properly, be better priesthood holders and stop playing with their hearts,” Lagazo said.

He said that in return, women need to learn how to accept the help of a man when it is given to them.

“Chivalry is not dead,” Lagazo said. “It’s coming back.”

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