The expectations for Feb. 14 are often set so high that many are left broken hearted — pun most definitely intended.

Men and women alike rush to the store at the last minute to find some little trinket that shows the person they love that they actually love them.

Roses are purchased by the bush-ful, chocolates consumed by the box and restaurant reservations are made in an angered frenzy when coles discover that every table is taken at every fancy restaurant in Rexburg.

The fact of the matter, lovebirds, is that Valentine’s Day is an over-anticipated holiday, whose background is based on fiction and shouldn’t be any more special than next Tuesday.  You don’t love your significant other more on Feb. 14 than you do on Aug. 5, right? I personally don’t feel any more Irish on Saint Patrick’s Day than I do on the day after.

If we take a quick look at history, we’ll find that the history of Saint Valentine actually has nothing to do with love or romance.

Saint Valentine was a priest who lived in Rome during the third century. Other than these few facts, the truth about his background remains a mystery.

Some legends claim that Saint Valentine was condemned to death for disobeying the rules of Pope Claudius II, who decreed that men couldn’t get married because they were expected to join the army. The legend claims that Saint Valentine secretly continued to perform marriages, but he was eventually discovered by the Roman soldiers and put to death.

It wasn’t until the 14th century that Saint Valentine was officially associated with romance, thanks to author Geoffrey Chaucer.

Chaucer wrote a poem in honor of the union between England’s Richard II and Anne of Bohemia, in which Chaucer associated their marriage with the feast celebrated for Valentine’s martyrdom, according to 

The most respected historical account is one where Saint Valentine refused to renounce his loyalty to Christianity and was executed on Feb. 14, A.D. 269. Please note that this was a death in the name of Christ, not a lover.

According to, Pope Gelasius marked Feb. 14 as a day to celebrate and honor Saint Valentine for his loyalty to the church.

With this in mind, I’m not trying to say that Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be special or an opportunity to show some love, but expecting someone to show that love can often ruin the meaning of what love actually is.

So let’s take some of the pressure off this ordinary day and tell the important people in our lives that we love them every day of the year.