BYU-Idaho conducted some studies during Spring Semester 2015 and found there are more than 10,000 single students in the university, according to the BYU-I website.
BYU-I is known as “BYU-I-do” among BYU-I students. The university is also known as a place to find dates and get married.
“Do not lose who you are, ensure every date is fun, communicate well and clearly, be a strong negotiator and nurture your relationship,” according to Dating Rules for all Relationship, a Web page with different tips for dating.
Students shared their opinions of the most important rules for dating in BYU-I.
Kalel Cascardi, a freshman studying biology, said the most important rule for him is having Jesus Christ as part of his relationship with a girl.
“As a missionary, I learned that the best kind of relationship are the ones that have Jesus Christ in it,” Cascardi said. “I wanted my investigators and me to come close to Christ together. Just like a triangle, I want my date and I to come closer, and at the same time, both help each other get closer to the Savior.”
He said relationships with that type of goal usually end up working well, or if it does not work, there is no regret or anger.
“We, as his followers, promised to do everything remembering him,” Cascardi said. “Dating is included. Having the gospel as a base, whether as just a date or an eternal marriage, we have the assurance that the best for us will work out. Heavenly Father promised us that if we do everything we can to be obedient, he would bless us with guidance and light.”
Lilia Zehnder, a freshman studying psychology, said the rule that matters most for her is having a foundation of honesty and communication.
“When I think about being in a relationship, I’d like to think that there is a sense of open communication to avoid confusion and difficult circumstances,” Zehnder said. “It is impossible to read the mind of the person you are dating, so being able to communicate is important so you both know where you are at.”
She said honesty is really important for both people in the relationship because it avoids doubt in communication and creates a foundation of trust.
“The only reasonable explanation for being dishonest is if a surprise party is involved; otherwise, it’s important to have all thoughts and feelings on the table, no matter what,” Zehnder said.
Peter Holmes, a freshman studying healthcare administration, said having commitment while dating is very important.
“It is important to be committed to a relationship to know that this is the right thing,” Holmes said. “It is one of the things that make or break a relationship.”
Becca Ward, a junior studying accounting, said one of the most important rules of dating at BYU-I is to remember to get to know the person at a deeper level instead of just superficial dating.
“I feel like so much of the time people get caught up in trying to impress the other or plan the most creative dates that they forget the entire purpose of dating,” Ward said.
She said dating is to find an eternal companion, and although one should not rush into that, they need to keep that goal in mind when going on dates.
Austin Barrus, a freshman studying business, said the rule he thinks is the best is to be compassionate and open to learning about the other person.
“We need to have open communication and be honest in a relationship,” Barrus said. “We need to focus our relationships with the gospel to have true happiness and success. This way if it doesn’t work out, there will be no hard feelings only hopeful thoughts for the future.”