Chivalry; opening doors

Getting back into the dating scene

Chivalry; opening doors

Fall has finally arrived. A new semester year has begun, and with it comes the start of a fresh, new  dating season.

After a long summer, your dating skills may be a bit rusty, so here is a list of some helpful advice to get back into the swing of things.

One of the best places to look for dating advice is from the wonderful leaders of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Do not be fooled by how long they have been out of the dating pool, they still remember what it is like to date and properly treat a date.

The first suggestion from our leaders is to make the date official.

“A date must pass the test of the three P’s: (1) planned ahead, (2) paid for, and (3) paired off,” according to a talk given by Elder Dallin H. Oaks, of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, titled “Dating Verses Hanging Out.”

A date does not have to be a big, expensive outing, but it should contain these three ingredients for it to be truly official.

The first suggestion shows us how to ask someone out properly.

“Don’t text her,” said M. Russell Ballard, of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. “Use your own voice to introduce yourself to the daughters of God who are all around you. To actually hear a human voice will shock her — perhaps into saying yes.”

You may think a phone call is old school, but if you do not have the guts to talk on the phone, you won’t be able to speak in person. It is also about respect and creating good vibes from the get go.

“This is how to make the call: you begin by asking, “What’re ya doin’ tonight? How about a movie? Or, how about taking a walk downtown?” Elder Oaks said.

It may feel awkward at first, but how you ask someone out can make all the difference.

Another great source of advice can be from your fellow students here at BYU-Idaho.

I heard some great advice for those of you who would consider yourselves as “awkward daters.”

A first date with someone new can be extremely awkward for anyone.

A great way to overcome that awkwardness is by planning a group date. Many students believe group dates are the way to go in the beginning.

Prophets have also counseled us to go on a lot of group dates.

Group dating can allow you to get to know someone in a less stressful way. It can also be a great way to establish a good friendship in a social setting to see how your date interacts with others.

“Go on group dates first,” said Crystal Dwigans, a sophomore majoring in international studies. “That way you can see how your date reacts around other people.”

Last, but not least, is how one should act when on a date.

The hardest part about dating is the date itself. Nerves can overcome the best of us.

“Don’t try too hard,” said Taelor Daffer, a sophomore majoring in general studies. “If you are focused on being you, you will find someone who will connect with you.”

Being yourself is the best route to take.

You may tend to be on the untraditional side.

“Rather than flowers, buy her a goldfish,” said Jackson Hern, a sophomore studying communication.

Just be as sincere as possible, and have fun.

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