I love social media. Social media is awesome.
But it’s not awesome for romantic relationships.
In the past few years, I’ve heard people say more and more, “Oh, your relationship isn’t official because it’s not Facebook Official,” and that’s a load of garbage.
Relationships should be between you and your significant other — not you and the rest of the Internet.
I have been dating my boyfriend, Keith, for five months. But we have known each other since August 2014, and we have had countless discussions on whether or not we should change our relationship statuses on Facebook to “in a relationship,” and every time, we’ve decided against it.
My little sister asked me recently why we aren’t “Facebook Official” because in her world — high school — nothing is official unless it is plastered all over Facebook.
It felt strange that I had to explain to her that, although we are very open with our relationship and we do not really care who knows, we are still extremely private about our interactions with each other.
We feel that if we are going to express our affection toward each other, it should be face-to-face — not through a cell phone or computer.
I’m all for posting that you are engaged or married, but if you have not yet reached that level of commitment, your dating status should be kept between the two of you and, if you choose to include them, your close friends and family.
Relationships should be private. There, I said it.
I can’t stand seeing posts that say, “I love you so much! You are my world! My everything! I can’t wait to see you in five minutes when both of our classes end,” or “I miss you so much! I can’t stand going more than ten minutes without seeing you!”
We get it. You have separation anxiety being away from someone you’ve known for a month.
Messages like that should be private, not broadcast to the entire world.
Yes, Keith and I are featured in each other’s profile pictures and we tag each other in posts when we go somewhere new or we do something fun.
But we keep the, “I’m crazy about you” messages between the two of us rather than sharing them with the rest of the world.
I completely understand that you really do love your significant other and you don’t care who knows it.
But trust me.
And we don’t want to see those things crowding our newsfeed.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t express your love and affection to those you love, but please, keep it off my newsfeed because honestly, I will hit “unfollow,” and I really don’t like doing that.
Let me pose a question to you: How do you handle the social media aspect of your relationship when the two of you break up?
This might not be the case with everyone, but when I see the dreaded “went from ‘in a relationship’ to ‘single’” post, it looks like that person/couple is just looking for attention.
Yes, it’s sad that your relationship did not last through all eternity and that you did not “get the ring before Spring,” but to be totally, brutally honest, I will not give you my sympathy because I was forced into seeing the “I love you” wall posts.
I’ll say it once again.
I love social media.
But I do not think social media is good for relationships.
Think about who will be reading those posts.
Are you really OK with your grandma, your bishop and your mom reading those messages that are really only meant for your significant other?
That’s right. Your grandma. She’s reading everything you post on your Facebook page.
Just remember that the next time you are about to submit a post to your significant other saying, “I love you more than anything else in the whole, wide world and I cannot even comprehend what it would be like to live without you.”