Humor can change a relationship. (Emily Rose Perkins)

Laughing for love

With a busy, stressful college life, laughing, smiling and having a good time with your significant other can be the best form of relaxation.

In social situations laughter can help you bond with others, allow for a positive way to deal with stressful things, diffuse built up tension and alleviate conflict, according to an article written by Jody Urquhart on

“I enjoy making people happy and believe that it’s worth making people laugh, smile and feel comfortable even if I may look dumb or silly,” said Robert Dickerson, a performer with the Academy of Comedy and a senior studying software engineering.

Dickerson said having a sense of humor allows you to be relaxed while communicating and having fun.

Urquhart said the ability to laugh at life helps us deal with daily disappointments and setbacks, according to

“Having a sense of humor is very important because dating can be stressful and nerve wracking so when someone can make you laugh and when you can joke around with them, it can help you relax,” said Lyndie Mittelsteadt, a junior studying public health.

Rob Wright, a faculty member in the psychology department said humor and its association with laughter, are desirable because it usually puts us in a more desirable mood and helps ease tension; so people who can help us relax and enjoy life become more desirable

“Life is a lot easier when you are with someone who likes to laugh,” said Thomas Heath, a freshman studying construction management.

Urquhart said to laugh at the tough stuff and when stress persists, be compelled to take yourself lightly, so the stress isn’t as heavy or emotionally exhausting.

“Having a compatible sense humor is important because if you are sarcastic and facetious that can ruin a relationship because some people can think you are really rude,” Mittelsteadt said.

Heath said if he can’t get a girl laughing on the first date and if she isn’t cracking jokes either, then he won’t ask her on a second date.

“Some researchers have suggested it’s equally important to be an appreciator of humor, such as laughing at another’s joke, as well as a generator of humor, such as telling a joke,” said Wright.

Wright said women are typically appreciators and men are typically generators, especially at the beginning of a relationship.

Wright said in order to create a satisfactory relationship, you really need to have a sense of humor in both and be both the appreciator and the generator.

Humor plays an important role in all kinds of relationships, according to In new relationships, humor can be an effective tool not just for attracting the other person.

Dickerson said having a sense of humor is very important while dating because he wants a girl who can be herself and when a girl is herself, he thinks it’s cute in a sweet and funny way.

“When a girl isn’t herself or is too serious, then I begin to become uninterested,” Dickerson said.

Mittelsteadt said happy people are the most attractive and people who have a sense of humor tend to be the happiest.

“Humor is more fun when you finally get to know the person you are dating, not because they understand your humor, but because they know who you are as a person,” Dickerson said.

Urquhart said laughter and humor effectively and inexpensively counter stress, improve morale, and create a work environment that is friendlier, less stressful, and more productive, according to

Dickerson said that humor is important to have while dating because it’s known to fight depression, loneliness and can even help someone find the gospel.

“I like to date guys who can make me laugh because life is just boring if you never laugh,” Mittlesteadt said.

Dickerson said some people may think they’re not funny, but that’s not what funny is, funny is just being yourself. When you are yourself, it can be fun.

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