Let us stop judging mothers. Period.


My mom has always been a loving, caring and selfless mother, whether she was a stay-at-home mom or working a full-time job, and I have always felt it.

My mother was a stay-at-home mom for some of my childhood and went back to work for the remainder.

Neither of those decisions made her a better mother or made me feel differently about her in any way because that is not what defines a good mom.

I am not a mother, but I have noticed an unnecessary judgment toward mothers about whether they stay home with their children or go to work.

I hadn’t thought about this much until I met a young mom who cried every day on her way to work, wishing she could stay home with her baby girl.

Her financial situation made it impossible, and while the situation was hard enough for her already, the judgment of others weighed heavily, making her feel unneeded guilt and inadequacy.

We should never judge a mother because only she knows what’s best for her family.

Sometimes, it’s not her choice to go to work but rather something that literally has to be done to help support her family.

I later met a mother who faced discrimination for choosing to follow her dreams and work a full-time job instead of staying at home with her children.

Sometimes, a family is in good financial standing and a mother still chooses to work.

That is OK, too. Even if we choose to be stay-at-home mom, or to be married to one, we shouldn’t judge others for choosing differently.

There should not be a status quo for mothers in that aspect. We never know the situation of a mother or the process she went through to make the decision.

What a mother chooses is ultimately up to her and her family and shouldn’t be up for discussion amongst everyone around her. Let’s stop the judging.

It doesn’t make a mother a lesser person to stay at home and be a mother, nor does it make her lesser to go out  and work.

I am a huge proponent of supporting all moms in all areas. Each and every family operates uniquely, possibly having different needs than another family.

Being a mother is hard work as it is; let’s not give mothers additional stress and judgment as we stand back as an oblivious third party.

What if a mother has sincerely prayed about this decision and received revelation for her family— would we judge her then?

Would Christ understand the actions of a working mother if she is trying her best and showing her children unconditional love?

We should empower and support all mothers as they each try to do the hardest job in the world with the cards they are dealt. Staying home or working is not what defines a good mother.

To all the mothers out there doing their best to love and teach their children, I support you.

'Let us stop judging mothers. Period.' has 1 comment

  1. December 9, 2015 @ 7:27 am Yolita

    I agree. Very well written article.


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