The first date can be nerve wracking, especially when deciding what to do, but it doesn’t need to feel like you are in an interview.
“Dating is viewed as an activity that should be simultaneously fun and purposeful,” according to Deseret News.
Though it may be fun, that doesn’t always eliminate the nervousness of figuring out what to do.
“For me, the first date always had to be short, no more than an hour,” said Assante Davidson, a sophomore studying biochemistry. “So, one of my go-to dates was walking to get ice cream and then playing a card game.”
The man should step up and plan the date, according to artofmanliness.com. A willingness to plan ahead helps to show the woman that the man can take the initiative.
“I usually like to keep the first date short,” said Joe Turner, a junior studying psychology. “This is because I run out of things to talk about quick, and anything longer than an hour results in some awkward silences.”
Turner said he typically takes the girl to get ice cream and then does some sort of low-key game so the two of them can talk and get to know each other.
“If that goes well, I would then plan a longer second date,” Turner said.
Dallin Simons, a junior studying business management, said first dates should be kept within a certain time frame.
“I normally do a short activity, like make pizza or a dessert,” Simons said. “It allows us time to talk, it’s only about a 2 hour date and it’s something fun.”
If the men are truly trying to impress the women, then a woman’s opinion should be considered.
Jessica Lantz, a sophomore studying art, said one of her most memorable dates was one that was slightly abnormal.
“One of my best first dates was with this guy I met at the dunes,” Lantz said. “I mentioned the apple orchards in passing, and he was like, ‘What? I didn’t know we had apple orchards here!’”
Lantz said that on their fist date, he took her to pick apples in the orchard.
“Then he remembered I was an art major and bought us modeling clay, and we made sculptures together,” Lantz said.
Lantz said that the date was so fun because he remembered the little things and tried to make the date about getting to know her personally.
“It’d be nice if all first dates were like that,” Lantz said.
Dates can be fun and simple while still being personal.
“The easiest strategy is to ask questions,” according to Deseret News. “Be willing to share who you are, but focus your attention on your date: where they are from and what their interests are.”
Dates do not have to be cookie-cutter occasions. They are a chance for a man and women to spend some one-on-one time, getting to feel comfortable around one another. Being creative can help to break the awkwardness of the situation.
“If you treat a first date like an interview, it will feel like one. Just be yourself and let your personality shine,” according to jarofquotes.com.