I am pregnant.
I have had so many emotions over the past couple months concerning my upcoming baby ranging from elated to completely terrified.
Something that I have overwhelmingly felt, however, is that I am so tired.
Seriously, I feel as if my life force is slowly draining from my body.
Also, everyday is a constant struggle to eat because EVERYTHING makes me nauseous.
Although there have been many people who have told me this is completely normal and that, within a couple months, I should be getting my energy back, as I look at the media or even other pregnant women, I feel overwhelmingly abnormal.
Kim Kardashian does not have huge bags under her eyes.
Kate Middleton didn’t make it seem that everything she did took every ounce of effort that she had within her.
Although I know this is probably because the media doesn’t follow them 24/7 and we don’t see behind the scenes, seeing this glamorization of pregnancy makes me feel like I am not doing something right, and I believe that is the case for others who are suffering through different difficult stages of pregnancy.
When Chrissy Teigen, the wife of singer John Legend, posted a picture of her baby bump on social media, there were many awful people who commented about how big she already was and had the gall to ask her if she was having twins.
Her response was so good.
“No more preg tweeting for me, lesson learned!! Back to food and reality TV and hay things,” Teigen said on twitter.
Teigen made news again when she tweeted a picture of her eating fruity pebbles, and again the haters came out to comment on her and her pregnancy. Once again, her response on Twitter was perfection.
“If you wanna give me unsolicited baby advice on the d— cereal I eat/what I wear u better unlock your profile so I can see your perfection,” Teigan said.
Those haters had no right to judge her or her pregnancy, especially because she was just trying to be real.
There have been some other people in the limelight who have been trying to be more real about pregnancy and post pregnancy.
Jessie James Decker, wife of professional football player Erek Decker, made headlines when she posted a picture of herself post-pregnancy with her “real” belly showing; meaning it was not automatically back to being toned and perfect right after having her baby.
“I appreciate all of the sweet comments about how tiny I look after baby! But I don’t want to mislead any mommy’s who just had babies and are stressing,” Decker said in an Instagram post.
She went on to talk about the weight she gained during her pregnancy, and she said that she was in no rush to lose the weight and she was going to lose it naturally through time and breast-feeding.
Pregnancy isn’t glamorous. It is hard.
Whoever tells you differently is selling you something. But it is also a very rewarding experience, and obviously, the results are well worth it.
I just want to encourage all pregnant women to be like Tiegan, and be real with your pregnancy struggles, whatever they may be.
In this way, we can help each other to know that the struggle is so real, but it is so OK.