Koster Kennard column100

Respect the perspectives of others


Koster Kennard column100

There are people I find ridiculous.

There are even more people who find me ridiculous, I’m sure. There are times when I get upset because people do things contrary to my beliefs.

There are times I get upset about people being unwilling to see my point of view.

But let me tell you something about me; I am ridiculous — not because I don’t try to see things logically or have an active conscience, but because I’m different from everybody else.

And so are you.

We all have different backgrounds, priorities and beliefs, but that doesn’t mean that others’ backgrounds, priorities and beliefs are wrong or even illogical.

Unless they are psychotic a super villain, people have reasons for the things they do. Who is any of us to say that another person’s reasons are inferior to ours?

Often, we find a perspective that is very different from ours and we think, “What the heck are they thinking?” or, “Why would anyone do that?”

They likely have a reason we can’t see. I refuse to believe that people typically try to hurt others or support a view they think will damage the world.

We are all doing the best we can in a confusing world where wrong and right aren’t as black and white as we sometimes assume. There are tough decisions to make and negative consequences to accept.

An inch of difference in priority can separate decisions by a mile.

Why are we always trying to pick a fight? Why can’t we say “to each his own,” instead of complaining about how ridiculous others are? We are all different on many levels, and that’s a good thing.

Instead of getting angry at others or being annoyed, we can learn from diverse perspectives and add a new dimension to the truth we have.

Getting along is far more important than a political opinion, an emotional priority or a vendetta against the boy or girl who broke our heart.

If we are going to argue that people should be moral, we should live the most basic moral of living the golden rule by giving others the benefit of the doubt.

If we are going to argue that others are illogical, can’t we understand that it’s illogical to assume we know all the reasons why others do the things they do?

Priorities will rarely match up with others. Keeping an open mind on either side of an issue can help us to grow and understand those around us.

Ridiculousness is an opinion, and it is essential that we differentiate between our opinion and truth with a capital “T.” This is especially important when dealing with others, and usually, it’s just our perception.

We can assume that other people mean well or know what they are doing, even if it doesn’t seem that way because people don’t mean to be ridiculous.

People are ridiculous, but so are you.

'Respect the perspectives of others' has 1 comment

  1. May 20, 2015 @ 12:34 am Daniel

    Good article.
    There are many times each of us have had times when people think what we do is foolish or that we did something for no good reason, but we know truly why we do things. No one really knows what goes on in the inside. Everyone just looks at the outside, what they can see we do. No one knows what our heart or mind tells us, except God.
    I’m part of a fandom most people associate as strange, sometimes with worse things. It is best to remember we all have something someone else may think is strange, but to us it’s not strange. We should remember to keep that in mind.


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