Story by Hannah Merrifield.
If you have ever had the privilege of getting your heart broken, you know that it is the worst.
Try as you might, there is no amount of ice cream, sappy television or puppy videos that can completely heal the pain.
But what if the person you are grieving is someone that you never actually dated?
Even when you think you are over the person that once made you feel special, that person is still the first one on your mind when you wake up and the face you see when you close your eyes at night.
Trying not to think about them is laughable when, for months, or, in some cases, years, that person was front and center in your brain.
A support system to keep you from those desperate late-night phone calls and social media stalking sessions definitely help during those darkest and most pathetic of times.
How do you explain to your friends that you can’t get out of your pajamas because you realized that it doesn’t matter if you are the closest friend in the entire world to the that person that has your heart, and that is all you will ever be?
All you will ever be is an incredible friend.
This, unfortunately, is not an incredible feeling.
And thus, you have not just entered the friend zone, but the friend zone has entered you — making you feel like no one will ever want you as anything more than a great pal.
Of course, our logical mind knows that this is not true, but often times, our hearts and our minds are not in alignment.
Being in the friend zone with someone you have feelings for feels like a form of rejection.
And rejection hurts.
Courtney Ray, a senior studying child development, said not only is the friend zone lame, but it is also just an excuse not to date someone.
“I don’t even think that the friend zone is a valid thing,” Ray said. “Keeping someone in the friend zone is just a nice way of rejection.”
This kind of grief, while perhaps the most underrated form of heartbreak, is still just as significant.
Finding closure with no official relationship to close is a difficult, gray area in the world of breakups, but you can really find it.
McKenna Zaugg, a freshman studying art, said even though rejection is hard, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
“You just have to say it’s OK, there will be other times and other people,” Zaugg said.