On May 23 Elliot Rodger murdered and injured several men and women and then killed himself in Isla Vista, California. According to CNN, Rodger called it his “Day of Retribution.”
His motive? To seek vengeance on people for living the life that he felt he was entitled to have as a college student. In his words, a life of “love, sex, friends, fun, acceptance … belonging.”
In many of Rodger’s video and journal rants he speaks about feeling he deserved a life of being wanted by attractive girls, a life of sex and love.
And in response to these videos, only days after Rodger murdered and injured several people, the hashtag #YesAllWomen started trending on Twitter and is still trending. According to ABC news, the point of the campaign was to bring attention to misogyny — the hatred and dislike of women.
Even though Rodger clearly had a misconception of what he was entitled to as far as female companionship and life in general, it is a disgrace that our nation embraced this hashtag and are embracing it so fervently.
The dead weren’t even buried yet. It’s disturbing that instead of reaching out to the families that were so terribly affected, the world decided to put the shooting on a pedestal and try to prove that Rodger was a “symptom” of misogyny.
The hashtag is not clever. It’s not making something good out of the situation. It’s disturbing and wrong. And the people so adamant about it need to get a grip.
Let’s all forget about the families that have been hurt. Let’s forget that he not killed men as well as women.
Let’s forget that he had been treated for social and psychological problems as a child.
Let’s forget all of that and instead parade around the media with a big “See? I told you so.”
Really? I am a believer in social media. Truly I am. It’s a great way to reach out to friends, make new friends, share news and even, when it’s necessary, raise awareness of issues around us. And even though harassment and discrimination are topics to talk about, #YesAllWomen was inappropriate and insensitive. Is the discrimination of women a topic that we need to center around this tragedy? #YesAllWomen makes it seem like Rodger’s only qualm was with women. But if we take a closer look, that wasn’t the only problem. Rodger was a psycho, a lonely, desperate psycho, and this hashtag categorizes every man with Rodger.
Before #YesAllWomen started, the hashtag #NotAllMen made a point that not all men feel lonely and entitled to women and even though #YesAllWomen is to advocate that women are in constant fear of being abused by the men that feel entitled to women, we need to realize that not all men are out to get the female population.
Many of the tweets hashtagged with #YesAllWomen complain of “sexism” that they have personally encountered or have seen.
Twitter user @AmberCadabra tweeted “Because I shouldn’t have to wonder about posting my experiences to #YesAllWomen will affect my job, and it will.” So now murder is in the same category as job discrimination? That will never be, should never be, in the same category.
How insensitive for people to complain about issues that look small compared to families that now have to face the reality of their son or daughter being dead.
The truth is, the fact that #YesAllWomen is using the killing of innocent lives for its own personal agenda is cruel, selfish and manipulative — kind of like Elliot Rodger.
So next time a mass shooting happens — unfortunately they are happening more and more often — we as a nation must stop and think before we sport and share a hashtag, or whatever form of media it will take, that is so inappropriate and insensitive to the tragedy itself.