As Valentine’s Day approaches once again, many single men and women are faced with the inevitable onslaught of public display of affection and grand gestures of love made by others.
Single Awareness Day, as the single community has dubbed it, is a day to either wallow in self-pity or to celebrate single independence.
Single ladies, I’m talking to you.
This year I suggest we look at the dating choices we are making and break the stereotype of the bitter, single pessimist before next Valentine’s Day.
A factor that contributes to this pessimistic attitude is the type of man you choose to date.
Are you dating men or boys? The difference is colossal.
I asked many acquaintances what the difference is between a boy and a man.
This is what I came with.
1. A boy is passive. A man is assertive.
2. A boy changes his mind frequently and doesn’t have goals. A man knows what he wants and tries to get it.
3. A boy is shallow and looks for the newest and hottest commodity. A man looks for a woman with intelligence and shared values.
4. A boy avoids the uncomfortable. A man is honest and is not afraid of broaching the uncomfortable topics. 5. A boy will make empty promises. A man will follow through with the promises he makes.
6. A boy is always partying. A man knows how to enjoy himself but stays focused on his career.
7. A boy makes excuses and blames others. A man takes responsibility for his actions.
8. A boy will respect you when he needs something. A man will respect you no matter what.
9. A boy lives in the moment. A man prepares for the future.
10. A boy is not open to critique. A man is willing to learn.
11. A boy plays with your mind. A man doesn’t play games.
This list is not comprehensive. There are innumerable differences between what makes a boy or a man. It can be applied to women as well as men and does not exempt those currently in relationships.
If you’re a boy, re-evaluate your life. If you’re with a boy, re-evaluate your relationship. If you’re one of my single ladies, don’t settle for less than a man.