Breaking off an engagement is not something you dream of.
You dream of finding Prince Charming, getting married and spending eternity together, but sometimes you do not get a happy ending.
About 15 percent of all engagements are called off each year, according to Time Magazine.
In an online national poll of 565 single adults conducted in August by match.com for Time Magazine, 20 percent said they had broken off an engagement in the past three years, and 39 percent said they knew someone else who had done so, according to Time Magazine.
Emily LeMoine, a senior studying communication, was engaged to her boyfriend of four years when she said she knew something was not right.
“I loved him a lot, and despite some minor problems we had, I wanted to make things work,” LeMoine said. “The closer I continued to get to my Heavenly Father, the more I knew that something was off. At this point, I didn’t want to break things off.”
Many women who have broken off engagements describe a “gut feeling” or an instinct that the man was not right for them from the beginning — but they simply got too far in the relationship to feel like they could break things off, according to, Babble, a entertainment website.
“I didn’t want to hurt him,” LeMoine said. “I loved him a lot, but I knew something was wrong about this, and with time it became harder to deny it.”
“I was depressed for certain,” LeMoine said. “I had to rely on my Heavenly Father 100 percent. I prayed so much during this time for strength, for my happiness, for his happiness. I felt pretty alone and helpless, but never have I felt so much love and sport in my entire life.”
LeMoine said she relied on her family and friends to help get her though that heartbreaking time.
“I made some pretty amazing friends during this time who were no doubt sent to take care of me,” LeMoine said. “They kept my spirits and helped me focus on what was important. My family was also a huge sport to me.”
Stephanie McMurtrey, a BYU-Idaho alumna, had been engaged to her fiance until one day he decided he could not go through with it.
“I had no idea what was coming,” McMurtrey said. “I was heartbroken.”
McMurtrey said that it is OK to cry and it is OK to mourn.
Breaking off an engament is hard for everyone involved.
“You shouldn’t let anyone tell you that you need to get over calling off your engagement any sooner than you need to,” McMurtrey said.
It may take a few months, or it may take a few years, but taking the time you need to feel like you are OK again is important, McMurtrey said.
“I was definitely nervous,” McMurtrey said. “I’m still nervous about dating. It makes dating hard because you are always scared, always nervous that something will go wrong like before.”
LeMoine said if you take a step of faith moving forward, although it might be very difficult at times, Heavenly Father will bless you more than you could ever imagine.
“I was very hesitant to date again,” LeMoine said. “It took me about six months before I began hanging out with anyone again. I’d go on dates here and there, but after about a year, I was ready to date again.”
Even though breaking off an engagement is heartbreaking and difficult, it is not all negative.
The experiences you go though can make you a stronger person, instead of breaking you.
“Keep moving forward with your life and trust in God,” LeMoine said. “Ask him for help and strength, and He will send it your way. He loves you so much, and he wants you to be happy and find joy in this life.”