Several BYU-Idaho students shared insights they’ve gained from their personal relationships, and said the strength of a cole often springs from finding new ways to spend quality time together.
Taylor Campbell, a freshman studying recreational therapy, said that she and her boyfriend are continually on the lookout for the next date idea, which has helped them discover each other’s likes and dislikes.
“I feel like when we branch out instead of doing the same things over and over we find the things we like for our own selves, and then we’re able to share them with each other,” Campbell said. “That helps us grow closer.”
Crystal Quanstrom, a senior studying recreation management, said she enjoys looking for opportunities to see how her boyfriend reacts under different circumstances.
“Seeing how he reacts to sports, whether we’re playing or just watching them together, and how wrapped in it he gets — I love seeing him in those situations,” Quanstrom said.
Quanstrom said getting to see how your significant other acts around their friends and family is a huge incentive to keep going on gro dates, even after things get serious.
“We went shooting, and I got to see him with his buddies,” she said. “I think you learn a lot about people by seeing them in different environments. It’s about finding common interests, and getting to see how the other person thinks.”
Quanstrom also said sometimes the quirkiest parts of a person’s personality can be the most rewarding to share.
“He’s teaching me to play the guitar, we love cooking together, and we play Dominion, which is a kind of card game,” she said. “We’re nerds.”
Campbell said it’s important to keep things fresh, and find new things to talk about.
“We have heart to hearts, and we talk about how we’re doing,” she said. “We’re always looking for new things to do together.”
Ronald Cooper, a junior studying sociology, is the BYU-I outdoor activities coordinator and first got involved with the on-campus department last spring.
“I’ve seen a lot of people bring dates,” Cooper said. “It’s just an opportunity to go and talk and get to know that person better.”
Morris Christensen, the faculty outdoor activities coordinator, said he agrees.
“There are a lot of good things that come from it no matter what it is. If it’s a married cole, if it’s an activity they can do, and adopt into their relationship, it gives them something to do not only as a cole but as a family and [to] pass on to their kids,” Christensen said.