Whether you’re walking through the Manwaring Center or sitting in the library, chances are you’ll find a cole being cutesy.
It can be a painful sight for those that want more than anything to find their eternal companion.
For the envious, it can also mean that you’re in danger of settling for a second-rate relationship, a circumstance that research at the University of Toronto suggests “is a distinct possibility for those who have an innate fear of being single.”
It’s an age-old fear that stems from pressures and expectations that have been present for generations.
We’ve all experienced that pressure in one form or another — mine usually comes from a mother that is eager for grandchildren — but what we need to realize is that God’s timing is perfect.
It’s something I’m sure we all struggle with, but in reality, if it’s not happening now, there is most likely a good reason.
“The issue for us is trusting God enough to trust also His timing,” said Elder Neal A. Maxwell, a former member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. “If we can truly believe He has our welfare at heart, may we not let His plans unfold as He thinks best?”
In our impatience, we try to take matters into our own hands and justify our bad relationships to avoid the stigma of being single.
As BYU-Idaho students, we have amazing opportunities to meet people from all over the world.
My advice? Take advantage of this time to make lasting friendships and build meaningful relationships.
In some cases, the best relationships stem from strong friendships. One of my close friends met her fiancé in a high school choir class. After six years of getting to know each other, both found themselves preparing to enter the temple at the end of the summer.
It might not be a six-year wait for everyone, but even if it is, the wait will be worth it. Don’t sell yourself short for temporary happiness.
It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.