The other day I was sitting at work when someone walked into the office and proudly announced, “I’m me again!”
He had gotten a haircut and felt that it made him much more like his real self, which to him was evidently more attractive.
“I feel like I could walk to any girl on campus and lay one on her,” he confidently said.
Now what would make a guy generally reserved to waiting for the girl to make a move more outwardly courageous? The haircut.
It was so marvelous that any girl wouldn’t turn him down on such a generous offer from him. OK, not really. It was really the confidence that the new ‘do gave him.
Whether it is in relationships, school, work or anything else in life, confidence is what makes us more attractive to the opposite sex, classmates, or co-workers.
But the lack of confidence can be what stifles momentum and holds us back from truly succeeding.
Have you ever noticed someone who just seems to excel in everything he or she does?
It is confidence in themselves that got them to where they are, and it probably wasn’t an easy climb to the top.
I’m sure they struggled with s and downs. Experiences where they felt they were on the proverbial top of the world, and also felt to be at the lowest low.
But what made the difference? They stuck with it and didn’t let their experiences hold them back.
Past experiences can make us nervous or shy from the spotlight when it should so readily be ours for the taking.
So what can we do to shake off the fear and rise from the ashes of apprehension?
An arm around the shoulder and a complement from someone you trust can be the best remedy.
Find something you’re good at, and keep fostering your knowledge and ability. Eventually someone will notice your good work and complement you. You will feel good.
Then branch out to a different angle of the same field; a part you don’t know much about, but that you know you will be able to succeed in.
As your abilities grow, so will your confidence.
Confidence builds off itself, once you have a little it is much easier to move forward and keep it growing.
Now, a word of caution: we also know those who bask in the light of their own confidence.
Being overly confident is as much of a block in our forward progression as lack of confidence.
They are usually highly opinionated and difficult to work with, let alone be around. Their pride drives them to prove they’re the best and keeps them from listening to the good ideas of others.
We all know that guy; we don’t like him very much.
Confidence is a thin line to balance. Too much or not enough can lead you off the path you want to be on.
But from what I’ve learned, it’s better to have more than not enough.